Feels like home

                                                           Hello all!

It's been long time since I have come back here to express myself.

To be honest with you, I was away from here in search of a new 

platform which looks jazzy-flashy-sophisticated which makes people 

think that I am a Pro website builder-which I am not.

Of late I have realized that I was unknowingly trying to impress the 

world than blogging for my own happiness and personal interest.

Coming back to this page makes me think that I am back at home! :) 

Simple, and very expressive.

It's time for me to welcome myself back to home :) 

Cheers! 

akv

I am The Brand

(On 1st of Dec 2013 mid night 1:40am, I was glancing the Tech Specs of the Jaguar Land Rover and I was astonished to know the fact that the this Brand has been acquired by our very own  TATA motors. I was Puzzled as to why don’t we have the name changed to  "Tata -  Jaguar" or "Tata - Land Rover".

This Puzzle made me come up with the below post.., though its totally unrelated to the Jaguar or the TATA.., The Brand names made me think..,)

I am The Brand…!! \m/

 As you grow, you get to meet a wide variety of people. Not that you did not have an opportunity to meet different set of people when you were young, but as you grow, you will develop a skill to understand people, their nature and what they actually are..,

When we all were young we used to do things that we liked to do. We used to like things that made us feel happy and there were no **CONDITIONS applied to them.., For an instance lets say when you were in 5th grade and you Pass by a toy shop. Where, you liked a toy car and you want to own it.., You insist your parents to get it for you and once you have got it, you are the most happiest person on this Planet..!!!

You would like to keep it with you through out the day and even at night.., when you are in your bed at night you would love to have it with you..,

That would be the first thing you would want to see as you wake up in the morning..,

You would have hide it in your bag and carry it to your school.., Admire it, Play with it when ever you got an opportunity. You would be waiting for that moment to go back to your home and play with it..,

I am very sure that every one would have done this. It might be a Toy car, a bike, a watch, a doll (Teddy bear and Barbie, HeMan, GI-Joe) etc. etc. etc..,

Same logic would have had applied to the outfits that we selected, the shoes, the accessories that we used as kids (Unless influenced by external factors like Parents choices or their preferences) 

You go out with your Parents to shop cloths, shoes etc.., all that mattered as a kid was LIKE. You liked it you wanted it.., If An outfit attracted you, you would want it, Period and you would be enjoying every moment wearing it..,

It’s a true joy.., that’s not influenced by anything…, It’s a Pure Personal Pleasure of wearing a dress that you really liked, doing things u loved to (in general)..,

As we grow up we (most of us) consider our Likings to be secondary and we make social acceptance / approval as Primary (Though society does not care as to what you are up to).

We see many people around us who are Very Much Brand Conscious.

As far as I could see, there are 2 kinds of Brand Conscious People around us.

1) These are the People who would have had used a single brand for a long duration of time and they are so used to the Brand that cant change the Brand. That brand would be running in their blood :D

I guess this is a genuine addiction of the Brand with which they grew up and its very difficult or (with some People) probably impossible to change the brand.

2) The second type of Brand Conscious People are the one, who are brand conscious, as they would like to be accepted in the society. These are the one who would liked to be recognized in the society by the brand they use. They are the one who would like to be identified by the logos of the commodities that they use.   

These are the set of People who would shed Extra Bucks Just for the logo on the products they use.

For an instance. If we ask them to choose a Product lets take an example of a Tee Shirts. 2 shirts of same quality, same color and even the same comfort level that they would Provide on using them.., In other words 2 identical shirts but with 2 differences...

*On one of the Shirts there would be a logo of a Top Brand and other without any logos. 

*The one with logo would cost 2000 Bucks and the one without Logo would cost 1200 Bucks.

Now.., What do you think the Second type of Brand Conscious People do…??

Yes…!!! you guessed it right.., They would obviously go for the one with logo.

They would always want to be defined by a brand. They feel so very Proud to wear the Brand and The Brand Defining them…,

Hey Hold on.., Are we missing something…??

I think Yes.., I Think, We are missing something..,

Something Major…,

Here arises few questions…,

Do WE (I), need to define Ourselves (Myself)…?

                                      or  

Does the Brand that we use.., should define us…?   

                                     or

Should People around us define us…?

Do we really Know what we are (as an Individual)…?

Have we ever made an attempt to Define ourselves..?

Have we ever Tried to STOP People defining us..??

Okay.., Okay.., That’s enough.., we have too many questions here..,

Just to make things simple, we shall get back to the TYPE 2 Brand conscious People.

Imagine, what would happen if we make the TYPE 2 Brand Conscious People to get out of their home with an outfit which does not have a logo of any brand…?

That would be the worst day of their life… They feel so insecure of not having a logo on their attire.., They would be occupied by the fear of not being accepted in the society..,

These (here using "these" because they would have used multiple brands for the same commodity) brand would have defined them so much that the rest of the world might not actually consider them (as an individual) with out a logo, because they would have failed to make an impression in Peoples mind and heart for the Person they are..,

They would have not defined themselves as a Person but as a user of  Branded commodities. And without the brand they are nothing..

Deep inside their hearts, when they introspect, they will discover that they use the Branded commodities Just for the sake of others and not really for themselves.

Finally what I feel is, People who are not confident enough of being the person he / she is depends upon the brands to gain self-confidence.

25% of what they are and 75% of the brand defines them…

What I really feel is..,

Be yourself a Brand… Define yourself.. Get admired for the Person you are and not for the Brand you use…

One should always be confident to say -  I do not need any Brand or a  logo to define me..

One Should be confident enough to say

"I AM THE BRAND \m/"

Avinash K V Unique

Illusion & Reality

What you think that is real might not be reality for me. It would be just an Illusion.

Your reality might not actually be real. You believe it to be real because, you like it to be that way.., it would be convincing to you and it might make you feel comfortable...

Let us take an example of   "A PERSON".

Hundred People see him (PERSON) in hundred different ways and each one of them believe that, how he sees the Person is what the Person is or what he should be as...

But the most funniest Part is that this Person might not be like any of the views / imagination / assumptions of any of these hundred people have had about him. He would (or could) be completely different from what everyone else had thought him to be....

Now tell me what is real ?? And what is Illusion ? 

What you had thought about the person (Things /circumstance in general) is real..? or what the rest of the 99 People with 99 different views about the person is real..? or what The Person actually is, is real..?

What is correct and what is wrong…?

All of us are living in our own world of illusion which we believe it to be real and all of us are happy about it [a blissful ignorance]...

Let me tell you one thing, the human nature is,  NOT TO accept things as it is. We all want things (/ People) to be as we want it (them) to be. And each one of us continue doing that all the time.

One day down the lane there will be a CLASH. The clash of realities. When your reality (The illusion that you believe it to be real) clashes with the reality of the Person (What he actually is)....

When you find a deviation between your reality and the Person's reality, you will realize that your reality about the Person was an illusion....!! But you are not ready to accept this and this is all because of the magic of "EGO"

This is when the relationship between you and the person will start getting spoilt and this creates a smothering atmosphere.

Your opinion and that of the Person's will clash... Petty issues will become huge problems... You might over react for silly things, because you are not ready to accept the reality as it is...Your EGO is not ready to accept the ACTUAL REALITY...!!

And now you'll try to make your illusion as a reality by imposing your illusion and thoughts on the Person and forcefully trying to make it as the person's reality.

Now comes the situation wherein you will stop liking to spend time with the Person and will try to push the time while being together. You try to avoid each other and you might also end up whatever relationship you had with the Person.

We all will have an image of a person say for an instance dad, mom, brother, sister, friend, Bf, Gf, husband, wife,  teacher, Priest, enemy etc.   and we expect them to be as we have imagined them to be in our heads. That’s weird but true.

The question is are we right in doing so ? Is it really NOT OKAY to accept people as they are ?

Okay lets make a deal. Let us turn the table around...!!
It was really fun discussing about "THE PERSON" and how 100 different people had looked at him in 100 different ways and expected him to be In 100 different Avatars.

Now lets replace "THE PERSON" with "OURSELVES".

This is food for thought isn't it ?

Isn't it hard to imagine..??

Imagine (Just for an instance) you know 100 people in this world and all 100 of them want you to be as the would wish to see you as....

We now realize that it is very difficult (or impossible) to satisfy / Justify / impress everyone around you by sacrificing what actually you are. 

Then why do we expect this from others…?

All we need to understand is how much real (truthful) are we to ourselves.., instead of  us wanting others to be like us or we trying to be like others.

Yes there are few realities which makes you happy, and few gives you heartbreaks…, Those which makes you strong and those which breaks you down...

But when you limit your illusion (which you firmly believe to be real) you will be able to accept people, things, circumstances around you as they really are...!!

You will be able to accept LIFE as IT IS ..!!

With an open Mind...

&

as a strong Individual…!! 

Cheers \m/

Avinash K V Unique 

"You.., You being Someone else.., You being yourself"

(Its been quiet a while, that I hadn't written.

When I had a look at my Blog Antaranga, the last post that I had published was on January 13, 2011. Its been almost 3 years…

I started analyzing, as to why is there a long gap… Why I did not  write in these 2 years  10 months duration… 

This thought made be come up with the below Post..

"You.., You being Someone else.., You being yourself"

I have used the word "you" Multiple times.., but I can't help because this is all about "YOU" :) 

Views, feedbacks, criticism are much appreciated..,

Presenting to you all…!!!)

"You.., You being Someone else.., You being yourself"

"You" as a person… who you are is a combination of your genetics and your practice of being yourself for years together.

Say for an instance.., It might be a good quality or a bad one.., your strength or weakness.., what you are now, is the result of what you have chosen to be and that you have continuously Practised to be. As wise men say "your habits become your Character."

You will continue to be a Happy man until there is a change of Phase in your life. Wherein you will undergo a transition. This Phase change may be expected or unexpected.., Pleasant or Unpleasant…, This might be by chance (unavoidable) or by choice..,

But once the Phase changes the transition happens gradually..,

This Phase change then starts the chase… There begins the race.. "THE RAT RACE" You will start to run the race..  That race, which you do not know where it ends… you do not know where you are heading towards... Only thing that you know is that every one are running and you are running too…, and this is an never ending run.., chasing everyone and everything that comes in your Path...

Knowingly or unknowingly.., Purposely or accidentally..,  you will start losing yourself in this race.., you lose yourself to overtake your fellow contenders.., you'll Push yourself. You'll Push the limits in this Pursuit to fit in the system.

All that you are doing is Losing yourself…!!!

You tend to change and you tend to become someone else that you are not . Day by day you change little by little...

This little and gradual changes that you undergo is so minute that you hardly Notice. But you are constantly changing…, for good... for bad... 

For worse…

BUT, there will always be a soft tiny (But a very clear) Voice in a corner of your heart that will always make you feel that something is bothering you.., Something has changed.., Or something is missing in you..,

When you find an old Note book (Probably the only notebook) that you used to carry to college.., The notes that you had made.., your handwriting.., the Pen you loved to write with…, your good old friends… that song that made you remember someone special.., the streets that you loved to walk.., your Passion.., your hobbies… Every thing starts flashing in front of your eyes like a dream… Making you realize the major change that you have undergone in the course of time…

That day you will realize that you have changed so much that you are missing yourself that you were earlier…!!

This is when you will admire "THE PERSON" who you WERE. This is when you compare yourself with who you WERE with who you are.

The change in your own Nature, astonishes you. This is when you develop an urge to revert back to who you WERE from who you are.

This is when you'll be puzzled if this RAT RACE is worth running…!!

Some one has wisely said "A man should know how to earn a living and more importantly how to live" At this stage the meaning of the quote will be absolutely clear to you.., 

You will realize the quality of life you had and that you are having now. The personality you had and what you have...

All you need to do is to Stop.., Look Back.., retain the changes that is worth retaining and revert back to what you were…Being Imperial… Royal… Simple and self content…

Life is all about Being you…!! A better you..!!

-Avinash K V Unique 

WAR n PEACE

        Every man tries to build a world of his own......in dis actual world......A world wherein he is surrounded by his loved ones and people and things which he likes......On da whole he will be in a well protected,secure place.....within his comfort zone which is "HIS" world.......It is da world where one can find only happiness,bliss n satisfaction.......

         But his world will be constantly n continuously affected by da external [actual] world....and it always tries to pollute dis small little happy world..........

          This is da point where da war begins......At this point of time unknowingly TWO wars begins simultaneously......Da first one is da war between da man's world n da external world...... Da second and da worst war is,da war between da “MAN n HIMSELF”……This man tries to fight hard against da contrasts of da 2 worlds [his world n da actual world]

          Da 1^st war disturbs da equilibrium of his world where his everyday activities ,lifestyle n relationships is affected…......Da second war disturbs his mental equilibrium…..which is da effect of da 1^st war…….

          Tough times starts and this man feels as though he has been blind folded and kicked into a dense forest…….

          His way of thinking,lifestyle,approach towards life & health condition changes……He starts feeling dat he is fit for nothing…..,a looser, an unsuccessful man……..

          Des 2 wars may lead da man to mental depression,addiction to narcotics……n all other sort of –ve actions n in som extream conditions even may lead to “SUICIDE”

          Suddenly from no where a thought flashes in where in he remembers a quote dat “Tough times never lasts but Tough people do……”

          At dis point of time da man withdraws himself from both da worlds and all wars for som duration & spends a lot of time within himself…….He tries to identify da root cause for all da wars…..imbalances…..n troubles n tries to find a way or create a way to overcome da defeat & he fills in a new zeal to reconstruct his world……..!!!!!!!

          He now understands himself better dan earlier…….n even both da worlds,his people,loved ones,friends n family….……

          Now he implements da essence n da knowledge gained during da tough times to da wars he is fighting…….He now knows “wat to do n wat not to do…..”Dis time he starts to set right da things  with patients…..

          He realizes dat a huge tree is hidden inside a small seed  jst lik his huge potential n he also realizes dat it takes years for a seed to become a tree……

          He looks back and see’s his earlier “innocent n happy world” n later da “War” n now at present “peaceful aftermath conditions of war ”

          He now feels dat he has become a complete man……his transition from an innocence GUY to da complete MAN……

          He identifies da transition phases 4m being innocent to confused to a complete man…..He is now ready to face any challenges of da world n he is very confident of building a strong fort around his small little world…..

          wat i firmly believe is dat "Every war has an end……Peace is da ultimate out come of all wars…….Instead of achieving peace after a war,its better to maintain peace by avoiding all wars….."

          Finally da toughest war of all times in dis world is “Da war between you and yourself…….Once you win yourself …..Winning dis world is very very very Easy thing”

 

...........Assumptions...........

    

 

               Much of the "TIME" in once life is lost by just assumptions on things and not attempting to do it. Whats more funny is that 99% of all our assumptions would be totally wrong. A simple example is that you try to take a decision on some issue of YOUR life and you think 1000 times about this world, this society,this people what will they think about me what will happen if they don't like my decision and so on.........and you drop the idea of the decision what you had thought of and you do things against your  will.............

         The actual fact is that this world it doesn't care who you are. You are just a common man just like the rest of them, you are just a  common face one among the millions. For this world  our decision does not affect even a little bit.......... But it is our own assumption about circumstances and people that stops us from doing things what we like to do............!!!!!

    What happens even if this world has objection for negative feedback to our decision or our act..........??????? As long as you are not guilty of your deeds, you should just listen to yourself and do what you like........

      A small suggestion is that most of the times our head will be filled with many people......., what we have to do is,we have to kick these people out of our minds and fill it with fresh ideas , pleasant thought and dreams...........

      When you are just an XYZ to this world why do you have to bother about this damn society........???????

        

       What gives you total freedom is just ignore this society and live your life to the fullest........this could be achieved only when you are damn sure that you are in the right n legal path..........

       Society according to me is a narrow straight line in the center of a long and wide highway. Everybody walk on this straight line and expect all others toooo, to follow the straight line and walk on it........!!!!!

       The one who tries to go in his own way in this wide and long highway of  life and when he steps out this crazy meaningless straight rule, everyone in this society treat him as an odd man and he is out. But the fact is that this odd man is the happiest man in this HYPOCRITE WORLD fearing all time what others think about me and follow the straight line even if he/she doesnt like it.........

      But this odd man is the one who doesnt care anything or anyone in this world but within limits........One should know the fine difference between ANARCHIC CONDITION n FREEDOM,only then this odd mans life style will have value and he would be appreciated..........

      Finally as we live in this society we cant ignore it totally. What the only thing we can do is  stop caring about this society and do what we like to do and live OUR life to the fullest a we like to live according to our will...........

....Lastly I remember a quote which i would like to share as its apt for this topic.....

     "Do not walk as though you rule this

 world........

Walk as though 

             you dont care who rule this world....... :)"

       

Thats what is called an attitude;)

Magical Number "ZERO"

         Zero is a magical n special number for me...., I love Zero.......I would love to be zero dan to be a hero...., Real natural n simple.......Zero is dat state where you are open to suggestions & you hav dat well balanced mind where you are capable of taking rational decisions......

         Zero is dat number which has no image hung to it......Sad to say but this world is completely filled wid fake people who hide der original identity......!!!!! n there is an immediate necessity to eliminate dis fake image........

         Compare dis life wid a number line having  Zero in da center n -ve nos. to its(Zeros) left n +ve nos. to its (Zeros) right.....,Being -ve is always bad n being Good is difficult n shaky n at da same time ur taken to granted by people around you......Being +ve n facing failure one after de other may breake you down into pieces........

      

         Being a zero is to maintain ur mental stability.......Its jst being in da ground state.......Zero is dat position which is beyond all our imagination.........Zero is dat position where u retain 100% of ur energy widin u n ur totally in control of yourself & you ll be ready to face the world n accept it as it IS........!!!!!!

         Being +ve makes u identify only Good aspects in a prerson/things or aaaaany thing.....

         Similarly being -ve always make you search for da -ve aspects in prerson/thing.....

       But Zero is dat neutral position where you understand dat dis world has maintained its equilibrium with da equal combination of +ev n -ve aspects.......Zeroth position is dat state where da person is ready to accept da reality of dis world........It is dat state where you see both +ves n -ves n u accept it n u feel its law of nature to hav both +ves n -ves in any entity and its natural.......

     If you are on a negitive side of ur lifes number line you feel yes i tot dis person/thing is bad /criminal n i was rit..... 

    N if ur on da +ve side u feel OOOO NOOOOO I Am being cheated for being good to dis world........

     Being Zero is an ART of "ACCEPTING A -VE QUALITY IN A PERSON N IGNORING IT n SEEING ALL DA GOOD CHARACTER IN A PERSON N APPRECIATING IT" 

I dont know wat de world thinks abt zero...........

             but 

                 I love Zero

I was a "ZERO"...... Iam a "ZERO"......... n i ll be "ZERO" Finally   I am a proud "ZERO"........ :)

- Keen Observer 

AVINASH.K.V.